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For as long as I can remember, I have loved peeling back layers of pretension and social masking we all have been taught to use. I adore having real discussions with real people about real feelings. I don’t have much appetite for non-stop surface talk, especially when it is clear that it’s all about avoiding intimacy.
My favorite kind of group to be in is somewhere that encourages people to open up and tell their stories truthfully. Here is some of my personal history that may shed some light on why I love deep, heartfelt conversations so much..
Send a smile as a gift of spiritual love
Well over a decade ago, I was walking around San Francisco down by the wharf area. My eyes were drawn to a woman with a shaved head who was being pushed in her wheelchair. I did not want to stare nor be impolite, but the sight of a woman with a shaved head was still unusual enough to compel my attention.
Before I could tear my eyes away, she looked up and caught me gawking. Rather than scowling or grimacing, she gave birth to the most glorious smile. I felt as if I had been zapped by a hot shower of love energy.
There were no words exchanged between us. The truth is that I had been melted on the spot and was too shell-shocked to say anything. I suspect that I had been looking at her with something like pity and she pulled a quick reversal, giving me a smile that would warm me whenever I thought about it for years to come. Read the rest of this entry »
Loving you is easy
Part One
I have a personality something like a nice mellow golden retriever. I quite simply love to love. Love to love you, Baby. Yeah.
If I had my way, I would openly love anyone. I’m aware how unrealistic that is on our troubled planet, but in my dream world, loving openly, freely, wildly, and enthusiastically would be a brilliant way to live. I have a natural inclination to look for the good in people; it simply feels better to me to look for good than to look for bad.
I think it would be great not to have to censor my attraction for people. If I liked something about someone I would like to just say so. I could talk about anything without filtering for political correctness or worrying how the other person might misinterpret my words.
I am a big believer in delivering positive reinforcement. I like to give people compliments for free, no strings attached.
I love receiving nice words, too. I receive a delicious blast of energy when someone says something nice about me, especially when the comments are unsolicited and heartfelt. Especially when they are given as candies for the mind, not intended to be followed by a sales pitch or a demand disguised as a request.
I love giving unsolicited compliments and yet I also fear giving them. My social environment conditioned me to be very concerned about what people think. I was trained that many people use compliments as a technique for buttering up someone for a come-on, and I didn’t want my sweet words to be construed as that.
